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And are you kinda sure what is likely causing it if it caught you unaware?
My Cap is kinda of preachy, sharp tongued, judgmental. Ready to POUNCE on an "ah-ha" YOU didn't do ...X!"
(I noticed it because every time it was assumptions and he was proven WRONG. Getting obvious. If it was my Gem X, I'd say he was looking for justification to backslide in some relationship aspect - finance/fidelity).
He has been pessimistic, sharp, and mean mouthed about siblings, my family members. Unusally angry about odd things.And indulging in smoking and beer too a overboard extent. Complaing of a bad day right after having said at dinner it was a pretty good day.
He comes home to dinner, a clean house, errands done and me EVERY day with very few exceptions (appts and like).
Our home is is comfortable, soothing and well decorated (I AM a Libra after all). My hobbies and projects are unfinished but not in sight or important. Our bills are paid though he bears the brunt at present because I can't be active military until I have a safe custody situation for my little one here. That translates to being married or giving up custody. But he has 60% of his income that is not going to household bills or to me in any way. He is on a break from school. So what is the problem?
It is his bright spark idea that I am SAHM. If we stagger schedule I can work at night. No way we can afford daycare and expense of me having a day job.
WE both look young for our ages though he got fat in the middle recently. We like a lot of the same things, though we don't have a reliable sitter currently so I can't go on MC ride with him often. Now suddenly he is bored says he. What?!!! 0_o
I am a Libra/Gem/Leo a little stuffed under this lifestyle but quite content ---until that bombshell!! This is HIS schedule, HIS budget, HIS ideas on WHAT to do for the weekend. HIS control.
But it is not like I never make suggestions! Libra IS a Cardinal sign though subtle. But I am chart heavy in mutables so I can flow and not fight for ideas.
My emotional vibe says he feels really insecure for some reason. He usually and (to me) obviously comforts himself assuring my attraction for him. Which I am most happy to accommodate...LOL. But after almost three years together again it sometimes is a little offending of my sensibilities. But in a time I am bored to tears, have zero social contacts and activities other than the gym and mommy stuff? It hit a sore spot !
Worse is an event we are invited to, when I asked the when of it (so I don't keep him waiting in primp time) he says "you don't have to go if you don't want to".
When does "Hey hon, what day are we going to that BBQ . I want to go shop for my mom sometime this weekend" ="I don't have time/don't want to go"?
It woke up my 8th house Cap and my Scorpion Neptune. To me he nearly screamed _" I don't want you to be at THIS party but you already were personally invited". But Why?
Because they see he is STILL with ME and not married? (He nearly married a total flake off the INTERNET 6 mos prior after an 7 months of weekend dates and a move in)
Or has he been talking negative about me?
Or is afraid I may repeat some of his work gossip?
I mean gee whiz! You'd think (currently) chubby middle age guy with a hot girlfriend who can speak engineering or fashion is a Capricorn DREAM! and I am his best spin doctor.
anyways.. it has been some rough, crappy crabby weeks since May started and I feel it is building to something stupid if he is not in good control of himself right now. And if it is planetary maybe I can try balancing actions to prevent any remorseful event.
But my own transits are having a rough go so I m touchy tempered and impatient myself and so damping those impulses.
And that is Why I started searching out some cappy refuges to see what is up.
This Cappy gets single again it will be ALL on him this time! And he wont get to come crying to me again. I do have some pride and limits.
A man who comparing every woman he knew to me and them not making the mark for 20 years and was literally crying in front of military buds over his beer over ME a whole 5 years after our final physical and personal contact oughta be more careful and appreciative of second chances!
My Cap is kinda of preachy, sharp tongued, judgmental. Ready to POUNCE on an "ah-ha" YOU didn't do ...X!"
(I noticed it because every time it was assumptions and he was proven WRONG. Getting obvious. If it was my Gem X, I'd say he was looking for justification to backslide in some relationship aspect - finance/fidelity).
He has been pessimistic, sharp, and mean mouthed about siblings, my family members. Unusally angry about odd things.And indulging in smoking and beer too a overboard extent. Complaing of a bad day right after having said at dinner it was a pretty good day.
He comes home to dinner, a clean house, errands done and me EVERY day with very few exceptions (appts and like).
Our home is is comfortable, soothing and well decorated (I AM a Libra after all). My hobbies and projects are unfinished but not in sight or important. Our bills are paid though he bears the brunt at present because I can't be active military until I have a safe custody situation for my little one here. That translates to being married or giving up custody. But he has 60% of his income that is not going to household bills or to me in any way. He is on a break from school. So what is the problem?
It is his bright spark idea that I am SAHM. If we stagger schedule I can work at night. No way we can afford daycare and expense of me having a day job.
WE both look young for our ages though he got fat in the middle recently. We like a lot of the same things, though we don't have a reliable sitter currently so I can't go on MC ride with him often. Now suddenly he is bored says he. What?!!! 0_o
I am a Libra/Gem/Leo a little stuffed under this lifestyle but quite content ---until that bombshell!! This is HIS schedule, HIS budget, HIS ideas on WHAT to do for the weekend. HIS control.
But it is not like I never make suggestions! Libra IS a Cardinal sign though subtle. But I am chart heavy in mutables so I can flow and not fight for ideas.
My emotional vibe says he feels really insecure for some reason. He usually and (to me) obviously comforts himself assuring my attraction for him. Which I am most happy to accommodate...LOL. But after almost three years together again it sometimes is a little offending of my sensibilities. But in a time I am bored to tears, have zero social contacts and activities other than the gym and mommy stuff? It hit a sore spot !
Worse is an event we are invited to, when I asked the when of it (so I don't keep him waiting in primp time) he says "you don't have to go if you don't want to".
When does "Hey hon, what day are we going to that BBQ . I want to go shop for my mom sometime this weekend" ="I don't have time/don't want to go"?
It woke up my 8th house Cap and my Scorpion Neptune. To me he nearly screamed _" I don't want you to be at THIS party but you already were personally invited". But Why?
Because they see he is STILL with ME and not married? (He nearly married a total flake off the INTERNET 6 mos prior after an 7 months of weekend dates and a move in)
Or has he been talking negative about me?
Or is afraid I may repeat some of his work gossip?
I mean gee whiz! You'd think (currently) chubby middle age guy with a hot girlfriend who can speak engineering or fashion is a Capricorn DREAM! and I am his best spin doctor.
anyways.. it has been some rough, crappy crabby weeks since May started and I feel it is building to something stupid if he is not in good control of himself right now. And if it is planetary maybe I can try balancing actions to prevent any remorseful event.
But my own transits are having a rough go so I m touchy tempered and impatient myself and so damping those impulses.
And that is Why I started searching out some cappy refuges to see what is up.
This Cappy gets single again it will be ALL on him this time! And he wont get to come crying to me again. I do have some pride and limits.
A man who comparing every woman he knew to me and them not making the mark for 20 years and was literally crying in front of military buds over his beer over ME a whole 5 years after our final physical and personal contact oughta be more careful and appreciative of second chances!
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