ok since everyone is on the combination of signs, I'll toss my insane relationship in there. My girl and I have dated for 5 years now, she is a Libra (oct. 21) and Im Cap 1 (dec. 29) definetly a strained relationship at times and other times is so great its almost intoxicating. she also asks me if Im angry with her or in a bad mood when Im just sitting and not talking. and when I tell her that Im fine she gets apprehensive thinking im lying.
so, anyone else had relationships with a Libra?
so, anyone else had relationships with a Libra?
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Re: caps and libra
Mon, May 12, 2008 - 1:13 AMwell, I'm a Libra - my boyf was a Cap - as you can see, it didn't work out.
He was too cold, too depressive, wanted too much time alone - that upsets us Libra girls -
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Thu, May 22, 2008 - 4:30 PMI try to spend as much time as possible and an physically affectionate. she doesnt seem to like the touchy feely all the time, is that normal for libra girls? -
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Thu, May 22, 2008 - 6:11 PMno, we're very affectionate.
If she doesn't like the touchy-feely...that generally means she is annoyed at you for some reason, doesn't feel you really love her, thinks you aren't committed enough. In all honesty, thats a pretty big red flag that she might think about ending things (sorry to be blunt, I have been in the exact same situation many times before).
Libra girls only withdraw from affection when they feel it isn't being reciprocated. We aim for fairness in a relationship.
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Fri, May 23, 2008 - 12:29 AMi am a capricorn and he is a libra and we have been together for 4,5 years and the last year has been rocky i am really considering ending it - he doesn't give me moments of peace I always have to do EVERYTHING with him and always with him, I can't have my own friends, when I need my own time he gets upset he doesn't give any space do breathe, i am a very independent person and I do not need a babysitter or someone who tells me what to do every moment I am with him - he likes to organize my life and solve problems which do not need to be solved, he needs someone needy which I am not and then he gets upset when I do have my own plans at times - it is so tiring all the time. We've had great times but lately it is just tooooooooo much of him everywhere - And he is so emotional, he is like the girl in our relationship - it is good to have someone but you also need to balance these things, you can't be so clingy and that what he is, and he is not very keen on my plans to study even further and do my career and feel good about my accomplishments, he wants a loving housewife to raise the children but HEY i am just 24 and I have my own dreams too, and we've had so many arguments because of this - he wants a marriage like the couples who have been married for 30 years and he wants it already now, but this kind of bond develops through time, you cannot force it - and he is so persuasive when he wants smth....he turns all my arguments upside down....cheesh. And I have the feeling that we're just too different and our expectations from our lives and relationship are too different. I need someone who can also be independent but he falls apart when he hasn't seen for a day ....it is hard - although I really really like libras I am afraid that in the longterm it is just impossible...at least for me. -
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Mon, May 26, 2008 - 1:19 AMyour Libra just wants as life partner.
The reason he tries to solve problems is that he does not want problems in his life, and is worries that you, although independant, can't be trusted and are too distant.
This si anothe reason I split with my Cap - he would get himself into problems, say he's independant enough to solve them, yet go into a deep depression and ignore me becuase he needed space to solve it.
that has a negative effect on the realtionship - if you casn't solve problems together, whats the point.
In all honesty Kig, he's probably thinking of ending it with you - if he wants a wife, he wants someone he can rely on, trust, and know will be there.
Thats why I split with me Cap - I was looking at husband material, you can't have that with him - too independant, not willing to share his life with me. -
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Mon, May 26, 2008 - 2:10 AMsorry Kig - why I say that - I have a male Libra friend who broke up with a Cap girl for the same reason - he is now engaged to a Piscean, and the cap girl wants him back, but he's had enough.
now that she is ready to settle, she's tried to run back to him -
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Mon, May 26, 2008 - 11:51 AMin a relationship you cannot force things, if you love each other and in the longterm have same views then you have to find a balance between - my libra wanted me to give up everyhting i have worked for and just marry him and start being a housewife and a mother.....I didn't study so much for nothing - he has a fabulous career as a dentist ok so he is happy but i want to accomplish smth tooo and then i am ready to settle more down too - i tjink at some point it is just tha tyes it is nice you're looking for someone to really settle down but you can't force it like that... and also give another person some space to breathe...we're not siamese twins i am a separate person and I can have a little bit different interests but i can at the same time live with him too without becoming obsessive and clingy....thats it. -
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Mon, May 26, 2008 - 4:13 PMI understand where you're both coming from since caps are a LOT more independent than Libra (7th house of partnerships) and Capricorn rules the 10th house of ambition through a career. Basically, you both find security in two different things. Libra feels secure in marriage while Capricorn feels more secure in their job. Maybe you should both find a hobby that interests both of you and at the same time it's something that you can both share which libra loves to do. Do it as a routine so you can both look forward to seeing each other after every week or something. In between you can compromise and have some freedom to yourself then maybe he won't be so clingy. -
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Re: caps and libra
Mon, May 26, 2008 - 5:40 PMyeah, us Libra's are a funny breed - I was fiercely independant, career oreientated also (I'm a lawyer), however, when we get the "I want to settle down" bug we expect our partners to be at the same place! -
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Thu, May 29, 2008 - 7:07 PMI'm a Cap. I has a Libra bf. I'm married, getting divorced, so it's okay now. We (bf and I) get together maybe two-three times a year, for a weekend. We know we can't be together as in a total relationship, but we can do what we do. Just saying.
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Fri, May 30, 2008 - 12:37 AMexactly! He has that bug and when he wants smth it is impossible to argue, libras are so persuasive and they're in that way very passive agerssive - playing with my guilt...etc but I know that at this moment in my life I do have other things I want to do......so I am so in between.
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Re: caps and libra
Wed, June 4, 2008 - 9:56 AMOkay I am having a different issue than most of you guys (at least I think) I am dating a libra (oct. 13) I am a cap (dec 29). I am having issues with him getting over defensive. I try really hard to just be sensitive and really listen. I think I am doing a great job, but to him I am not. He says things all the time like "I will never change and never this and never that" and it really discourages me. I feel as though I am not getting encouragement from him and that I am a horrible person for not being able to be better. Where I am thinkign we need to work on that together. How am I supposed to change and make the relatinoship better if he is always defensive, thinking things cant change....
I feel like he is just trying to cause strife to have a reason to break up with me or push me to the edge to break up with him .. all of this is really hurting my heart. I just want to love him and us to share equal responsilibities and for him not to despise me cuz I need help. I try to make sure I am asking him so he feels he has a choice, but he says he doesn't feel that way.
How do I handle the situations better? I have been changing all my reactions to him by just taking a moment to let things sink in before coming up with a response. I have tried sitting down and listening to him....It just seems as though no matter what i try to do I still get a defensive attitude and it makes me curl up into my own world and go back to be independent and just making sure I make myself happy.
Please help! I really want him to be the one because we have such great love for each other and when we have a mutual want for something there is no stopping us...so I don't understand why on the day to day it is like pulling teeth from a jaguar to get him to stop being so darn defensive. (is it because i am not some docile helpless chick?)
