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i havent been on tribe in ages but as i was looking up things about signs i decided to come here and seek advice from fellow cappys. i dont like to take astrology literally but its interesting and much of what i read about capricorn does in fact fit me, with some of the details being SPOT ON.
i dont want to put too much of my personal business online but i met this female a while ago, and have been friends with her. at first there was an instant clique and we pretty much became friends instantly. over the past there has been quite a bit of flirtation between us and i had an attraction towards her. i never went hard to let her know it because i like to test the waters and find out who is true to me. doubts always creep in my mind and i have 2nd thoughts about who a person.
she is friends with EVERYONE. shes very friendly and seems very open hearted. it drive me crazy how this girl can be friends with anyone so easily. she also seems very naive. are leos generally naive? while past events have shaped me to not trust anyone (everyone ive come across has fucked me over) and i tend to put a big wall up, i think she trusts way too easily and sets herself to get hurt. i just think she needs to be more guarded and cautious of who she lets in. i can see through most people, i dont think she can.
my intitial attractive was she seemed honest and sincere...and different from the rest of females. she also seemed to have "motherly qualities", if that makes any sense. i guess i saw something that said she would a good mother to my kids which is important. im at the point where i really want to find that someone and start a family now. we even had a joke about having lots of babies.
im not even talkin about physical attraction....she has that but i dont look at her for it.
fast forward to a couple months ago and she had been ignoring me altogether with. i got tired of it and i let her know. i lashed out and spoke my mind and probably came off as cruel, something ive never done with her because ive played the background and not let myself show through too much. she claims she didnt ignore me, and as soon as i decided to brush her off and give her a dose of her own medicine, she want hard trying to grab my attention.......flirts and all. i gave it the cold shoulder.
i feel like she does not respect me and does not care about me. to care about someone and have them flat out ignore you hurts. im willing to give people second chance but....i dont know. before i confided in her because i thought she was someone i could confide in.
ive read all about how capricorns and leos are not compatible and that its a disaster waiting to happen. when i asked her what signshe was and she said leo it was like a knife in my heart, like an instant death certificate.
"Leo Woman & Capricorn Man
This relationship is pretty much doomed before it gets going. While you are outgoing and attack life with energy, he is reserved and cold and not interested in being social. You are spontaneous and free; he is practical and loves sticking to a dull routine. He also has pretty firm ideas about how people should live their lives, and he will be disapproving of your self-indulgent side. You already have parents- you don’t need your boyfriend scolding you every time you buy a new sweater! For you, indulgence is a way of life. You’ll get tired of this relationship and his nit-picky ways very fast. A bad match. ( Source: Jellybean's Astro-Soulmate Guide )
Heavy and intense, this love pairing is all about a strong dose of mutual respect and attraction. Leo girl will accomplish anything she sets her mind to, and Capricorn boy loves her for it. At times, this relationship might morph into a battle of the wills; just remember that no one can be right 100% of the time."
that is whats said about it and well...its right.
do i completely dead even a friendship ? i dont want my heart to hurt,, but i want to save myself the pain that would go along with something happening further along down the road. i dont want females as just friends/acquaintances in my life. i want something eserious and dont have time to spend being someones friend. maybe that sounds cold but its the it works. chances are a friend isnt going to be by my side, and if i want a girl i want her for myself. if its doomed to begin i need to get rid of this person altogether with in my life.
do i tell her everything on my mind and completely reveal my feelings? i dont wanna look like a fool. i also dont wanna keep feelings bottled in.
i dont know what to do. im confused and hurt ....sorry for some of the jumbled thoughts. its hard to keep my mind in check right now. maybe im just looking for something where nothing exists. maybe i screwed it up myself by being stupid and overreacting. i dont know.
i dont want to put too much of my personal business online but i met this female a while ago, and have been friends with her. at first there was an instant clique and we pretty much became friends instantly. over the past there has been quite a bit of flirtation between us and i had an attraction towards her. i never went hard to let her know it because i like to test the waters and find out who is true to me. doubts always creep in my mind and i have 2nd thoughts about who a person.
she is friends with EVERYONE. shes very friendly and seems very open hearted. it drive me crazy how this girl can be friends with anyone so easily. she also seems very naive. are leos generally naive? while past events have shaped me to not trust anyone (everyone ive come across has fucked me over) and i tend to put a big wall up, i think she trusts way too easily and sets herself to get hurt. i just think she needs to be more guarded and cautious of who she lets in. i can see through most people, i dont think she can.
my intitial attractive was she seemed honest and sincere...and different from the rest of females. she also seemed to have "motherly qualities", if that makes any sense. i guess i saw something that said she would a good mother to my kids which is important. im at the point where i really want to find that someone and start a family now. we even had a joke about having lots of babies.
im not even talkin about physical attraction....she has that but i dont look at her for it.
fast forward to a couple months ago and she had been ignoring me altogether with. i got tired of it and i let her know. i lashed out and spoke my mind and probably came off as cruel, something ive never done with her because ive played the background and not let myself show through too much. she claims she didnt ignore me, and as soon as i decided to brush her off and give her a dose of her own medicine, she want hard trying to grab my attention.......flirts and all. i gave it the cold shoulder.
i feel like she does not respect me and does not care about me. to care about someone and have them flat out ignore you hurts. im willing to give people second chance but....i dont know. before i confided in her because i thought she was someone i could confide in.
ive read all about how capricorns and leos are not compatible and that its a disaster waiting to happen. when i asked her what signshe was and she said leo it was like a knife in my heart, like an instant death certificate.
"Leo Woman & Capricorn Man
This relationship is pretty much doomed before it gets going. While you are outgoing and attack life with energy, he is reserved and cold and not interested in being social. You are spontaneous and free; he is practical and loves sticking to a dull routine. He also has pretty firm ideas about how people should live their lives, and he will be disapproving of your self-indulgent side. You already have parents- you don’t need your boyfriend scolding you every time you buy a new sweater! For you, indulgence is a way of life. You’ll get tired of this relationship and his nit-picky ways very fast. A bad match. ( Source: Jellybean's Astro-Soulmate Guide )
Heavy and intense, this love pairing is all about a strong dose of mutual respect and attraction. Leo girl will accomplish anything she sets her mind to, and Capricorn boy loves her for it. At times, this relationship might morph into a battle of the wills; just remember that no one can be right 100% of the time."
that is whats said about it and well...its right.
do i completely dead even a friendship ? i dont want my heart to hurt,, but i want to save myself the pain that would go along with something happening further along down the road. i dont want females as just friends/acquaintances in my life. i want something eserious and dont have time to spend being someones friend. maybe that sounds cold but its the it works. chances are a friend isnt going to be by my side, and if i want a girl i want her for myself. if its doomed to begin i need to get rid of this person altogether with in my life.
do i tell her everything on my mind and completely reveal my feelings? i dont wanna look like a fool. i also dont wanna keep feelings bottled in.
i dont know what to do. im confused and hurt ....sorry for some of the jumbled thoughts. its hard to keep my mind in check right now. maybe im just looking for something where nothing exists. maybe i screwed it up myself by being stupid and overreacting. i dont know.
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Sat, July 4, 2009 - 11:47 PMi cant edit posts here so i will add a c ouple things:
with women i want a woman for myself and only myself. i guess i am very possessive and can be the jealous type. she must give her all to me or im not going to give an inch. when i like someone, i think that they should only be with me even if i know that theres not gonna be an 'us' in the future. i still have this feeling in my head that im the best for them even when they go on to marry another person.
i came to her straight up and called her on everything and got no response still. she was basically dumbfounded and said why am i acting like this. i want an apology and i want her to realize that she made the mistake. i demand respect ouf of people, i want her to know this. -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 1:53 PMI'm not a Capricorn..but
Knowing how Capricorn MEN are normally..and you do describe yourself as a strong Capricorn/Saturn influenced type. I would say in my honest opinion Leo will not be for you. You need someone who respects your need to be only focused on you as Leo as you said are very outgoing people and a strong Capricorn may see them as too out there, not committed in their eyes. Also being a fixed sign will make them stubborn. And yes friends are very important to them and they're very sociable.
"with women i want a woman for myself and only myself."
You need someone who naturally respects that, someone with Water heavy chart with Earth sounds more like your cuppa tea in general IMO.
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 2:06 PMI just went over your initial post (sorry its late where I am) It seems to me this girl does not really respect your feelings at all and clearly does not know what she wants or is not looking in the same direction as you. You have a very mature outlook and maybe she may not be ready for that?
The air needs to be cleared also I sense you may have doubts of a union with this person and that not good..
Also in regards to sign compatibility you need to take the whole natal chart into consideration. Comparing Sun signs alone is not very telling.
I hope you gain some clarity soon in your sittuation because I know how it is.
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 5:48 PMwhy do you demand respect? personally? i would be totally offended if a guy made that statement to me. i'd tell him to get fv<ked & would never give his slopy butt the time of day ever again. there are too many people in this world who think that they somehow "deserve respect" when they don't even know what it is to GIVE respect. I'm not saying you don't, but that's a very arrogant thing for you to say. and arrogance is a turn off.
respect is something you earn. not something your born with. have you given her a reason to respect you? a good one? why should she respect you? what have you got to offer her that she can't get somewhere else? do you respect her? why? is your relationship built on MUTUAL respect or do you just expect that out of your women?
these are questions you've got to ask yourself & really think about and you should discuss this with her. maybe you might need to apologize to her for making unreasonable demands.
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 5:40 PMcaps & leos work really well together if you both agree to see other people.
i was in a relationship with a leo male & it was great fun. but i did NOT want any kind of commitment AT ALL. and we agreed to those terms & it worked out beautifully.
if the two of you are serious about each other, then you should discuss your parameters & the terms of the relationship so you both know where the other one stands. this is advice i'd give to anyone in any relationship. but it's doubly true with caps & leos. as long as you both agree on the terms of the relationship, (and stick to them) you'll have a blast.
leos male or female will flirt. it's the nature of the beast. you've just gotta understand that it has nothing to do with you & that's ok. it's not about you, and it's not a negative reflection on you. thats just what leo's DO. it doesn't mean she doesn't like you. it means she's being true to her nature. love it or leave it. -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 7:10 PMim nowhere near arrogant. ive given her every reason to respect me........by caring for her too much, being loyal, tpta; sweetheart, standing up for her, being too good to her in general. the things i would do for a person i care about, knows no limits. what have i got to offer her that she can't get somewhere else? everything. but if shes not looking for somethin true and not lookin in the right places then i guess i cant offer her anything she cant get somewhere else. she wants a loyal, loving, sweet, generous man who will do anything to take care of her and make her happy she needs to realize shes lookin right at it. i respect people when they give respect to me. im not going to sit and give give give when i get nothing in return. understand? she wants to take take take but cant give me anything in return. do i respect her? yes......but i dont know anymore. how can i respect someone who doesnt respect me ?
"you have a good heart. you are nice man. you are loving and caring and funny. everything a woman wants in a man" "youre very dear to my heart, i dont even know why, but youre just so loveable"
her words to me. so why cant she even talk to me.....
i cant even tell her exactly how i feel cuz she wont let me
aquarian-scorpio thank you for your reply. you are right and can see what im about. yes i have major doubts......and i really want to find "her" right now. i guess she doesnt know what she wants and im too strong a man for her. im so serious......too serious for her. where do i find a woman who knows what she wants and is serious about things. i tried gettin at one but she shot me down said i was too young. doesnt respect my feelings..........yea thats what it seems like. everytime i try to tell her that she thinks im mean.
and then i gotta do this all over..........get to know a person and figure out their intentions.......then finally after a few years be ready to start a (serious) relationship. im too old for this, i really wish i already found the one. now its lookin like i'll be 30 and still single...... -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Tue, July 21, 2009 - 12:52 AMSomeimes we can't make things happen..we just have to go with the wind sometimes. I'm sure you won't be still single by the time you're 30, so I take you are still young and have years ahead of you. Also no one should have to demand respect from anyone, it should come as a natural part of any kind of relationship.
Also to me she seems young still..and to find 20'somethings these days who want to settle is very rare.
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Tue, July 21, 2009 - 1:04 AMAlso the other poster makes some good points on the Leo persona. They are very virbrant and love to show it and they do not change for no one. There will have to be alot of compromise and I know you have some trust issues and certian things may not rub you the right way at all but it all boils down to TRUST if you can't get past that barrier then its not good for you or the other person.
Those wprds she said to you were pretty deep, to you it may seem like she did not mean it now but it could shes scared or just not ready for that. Maybe give her abit of space and time but not too much time.
I remember a Scorpio friend of mine had this same complaint about a girl he really liked who was also a Leo. The fact that she went out with friends ect all the time made him upset and jealous as he felt she was not giving her attention to him and him alone. But I made him realise that what he maybe asking of a girl her age was wishful thinking. She was 19 at the time he was 23+10 as this guy is just on a whole new level. He's just done everything is such a short space of time now all he is missing is wifey. -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Fri, July 24, 2009 - 7:13 PMso i cant even tell her how feel. not that i cant, but she wont let me. hard to even talk to her or gain her attention for a small period of time . i tried ......i got small comments as a reaction and feel like i got nowhere. its hard enough for me to let people in and i told her that. maybe shes scared.....or maybe im wrong.
she told me that a while ago. ive always given her space, i need my space too.
i dont wanna jump through hoops just to get the attention of someone who might not even feel the same way about me. more importantly i dont want to give myself to a person who doesnt care for me the same way i care for them.
im 25 now so its its pretty much certain ill still be single at 30. if i dont know her now then im going to have to be friends for awhile and make sure i know her. i may be "young" to some people but its arbitrary. ive lived and im wise, and i know exactly what i want. i will feel like failure if that happens because i wanted to have kids/get married at a relatively young age .....and upper 20s is not even that young IMO. yes its different for everyone and i shouldnt think i have to do ___ by ___ age but i cant help it. im ready for it and i know exactly what i want. why not now?
it is pretty much impossible to find people my age that want to settle. this is what frustrates me.
she is young.......2 and a half yrs younger. thats too young for me.......hell most 25 yr olds arent mature enough or on the same level.
i dont know anymore
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Sat, July 25, 2009 - 12:31 AMI agree with alot of your last post as I have the same problem lol! I always say that for the type of person I am and the sort of things I want, I can't really look at guys my own age (22) but even people who are 25-29 can be very immature too. Its not easy to find that balance. So shes not that young but knowing people around my age and even older their out look is not looking to settle down for a good while and you know yourself theres only a minority out there.
I can only give you my opinion from what you have told about your sittuation..I think theres alot of uncertainity in the air there from both ends.
Also you need to seriously stop worrying about before im 30 thing (I use to that abit) because if you do that it will just put stress on you and even lessen the possibility of you reacing this goal before 30. I know how you feel because I want to have my career, marriage and a child before or by the age of 30 but its finding a willing person lol and someone who i can trust enough to deal with. -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Sun, July 26, 2009 - 12:43 PMword of advice. I'm 31, single and I love my life. I have had a few ups an downs when it comes to relationships but elt me tell you this, I have absolute faith that when the time is right, the "one" will come into my life.
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Thu, July 30, 2009 - 6:28 PMLOL.........this is ridiculous..........talked to her on IM monday .......told her "promise you will come talk to me" and she said "yes". well still no contact. no regards for my feelings whatsoever. broken promise. me coming to her everytime.
she would rather run away and crawl up in a ball when someone stands their ground
these women are F-ed in the head or something
dont cross me, dont deceive me, and dont be 2-faced with me
not gonna deal with it
go deal with a weak minded person instead
life cant be all jokes and small talk. sure, im a funny guy and i can have fun and joke but thats not all you are gonna get. -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Thu, July 30, 2009 - 10:23 PMLooks like there's a BIG communication problem between the 2 of you! Looks like you both need some real honest talking.
BTW, she has not broken a promise because you did not fix a time for her. "promise you will come talk to me" could be next year as well, as long as you don't add "tomorrow". If I were you, I'd ask her to marry you. See how she reacts. On the other hand, it could very well be she needs some time to make up her mind about you. Maybe subconciously she feels this will involve the rest of her future (having your kids is not the same as buying a new pair of shoes) and thus she needs time to find out for herself if she's willing and ready. I think you judge her to harsh. I think you suffer from insecurities and these insecurities make you jump to the wrong conclusions. Good luck with it mate! -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Sun, August 2, 2009 - 3:26 AMHi, a Leo woman here to offer a little perspective, first off all, I want to say that I'm in love with a Capricorn man, which drew me to this tribe, and i agree with that there is a big communication problem, i've found this also to be true with my Capricorn sister and I, as we have had quite a bit of turbulence in our relationship this past year or so,
but what I think and what I've noticed from my baby is that he doesn't share enough of his feelings and he and my sister seem to "demand" respect without a clue to how it is to be earned. A Leo has to have respect too or we won't be happy either and there will be problems,
now blah, you sound like a very serious dude which is a big reason that my guy to is so irresistible despite the fact that im 7 years his senior(hay maybe you need an older woman), but could it be that you are taking it TOO seriously? Meaning being overly sensitive? This would cause you to be more forceful and resentful and think the worst about everything she does, and capricorns are prone to think negatively anyway, some signs are postive and some are negative, Leo is a positive sign. (yin, or is it yang?)
It might be hard for you to be open, and you may tend to want to have things fall your way instead of coming out and saying this is how you want it, and then you confuse that with not being respected, but really its just that your not being understood, your not giving enough, i've noticed a lot of insecurity in capricorn, it because you don't trust yourself emotionally
also, Leos are very intelligent and may look naive at times, because we expect and look for the best from things (positive), but naive I am not, also, just like you we are very loyal partners and we will stick by you and ride with you, but we do like power as much if not more than you do, so there will be power struggles until you get the MUTUAL RESPECT down pat.
and because this issue is so prominent in my life right now, im gonna just say more about mutual respect:
DON'T try to have a one up her, DON'T try to control her, Respect means to have regard for, to acknowledge even- Not bow down to
The way you said "demand" sounds like an issue of power
Capricorn with that power and control issue seems to want to see someone defeated or subordinate in order to feel respected, If she hasn't crossed your boundaries, or crossed any lines, I wouldn't call it disrespect. But Leos are in your face and blunt so i can see being abrasive at times, but typically we like to instill dignity in people, not take it away.
DO respect her need to be herself, DO make clear you wants, needs, intentions and watch them be met, if not then she's just not that into you
also DO respect yourself and things like respect and your dignity and self-esteem won't be up to anyone but you, how you do that is always being true to that little voice inside that tells what you think is right for you, it's not always easy to follow but that is the way
you may you feel like you need love asap, but you should probably wait till it comes to you and don't make it another worry,
and thank you for reminding what i like so much about Capricorn men !! you sound like a winner so even if it doesnt work out with her you're gonna be fine
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Sun, August 2, 2009 - 3:31 AMomg i apologize for all the typo errors, i may be just a little sleepy -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Sun, August 2, 2009 - 12:26 PMWonderful advice there from Sunshine! -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Sun, August 2, 2009 - 3:05 PMthat's nice of you aqua-scorp, i'm sure you're probably as good at giving advice as any scorpio i've ever known, so thank you, but not too much praise for me, wouldn't want to deter from the intention of helping someone else to see things clearly, that's my passion, and my future career, might as well do something i love to do, then something that would bore me to death with no fulfillment, and anyway i would spend a lot of time at work talking to my friends about their problems anyway so i've almost always gotten paid for doing it.. ha ha ha
i just hope blah can take kindly to what i have said,
i think all relationships should come down to being equals, but with Capricorn and Leo it's a must
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Tue, August 11, 2009 - 7:35 PMthanks
i am too serious. i always tell myself "maybe you should give people more credit", but the minute i do they turn around and prove me right.
maybe i overreact, overthink, and overanalyze things.
i may be pessimistic/negative, but i also think im realistic. i look at things for how they really are not how i want them to be.
you leo women need to realize everything cant always be about you. this may or may not apply, just a general statement. dont take our moods personally.
well we havent had contact in 2 weeks now...........i dont know what to do. she was mad at me. yall keep sayin that there is a communication issue.....of course there is but whenever i try to sort things out and talk to her straight up she gets mad and runs away. maybe shes just immature. to think that i was ready to let her in, i was on the verge of telling her everything.
i WANT to trust BADLY. i want to let someone in completely and share all of me. i want to confide in someone. believe me i try to.
shes not for me though. she wants to be "free" as she says. shes not pure either. i guess i was just looking too badly for love that her being the only one around made me look in the wrong direction. we are at two different places and she doesnt want the same things.
im frustrated right now. its like someone hit the pause button on my life and i cant move forward. not just with love...........with everything i want to achieve. "wait til it comes to you and dont make it another worry" yea thats what they all tell me....and ive done that. how is supposed to come to me though? women dont approach, so if i sit back and wait for someone to come to me (like ive done for years) it never will. im patient, but i cant wait my whole life. whos gonna approach a cappy anyways when i prolly look unapproachable and cold because i look serious/am shy/always thinking about something. -
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Fri, August 21, 2009 - 3:38 AMWhat you say sounds familiar. I mean not the leo girl part but the frustration part. I remember many years when I wanted to move on but simply couldn't. And I remember all those years when I waited for the love of my life to come along. But he didn't.
Instead, when I became too desperate, I just entered a relationship with someone who was OK and available. In fact those relationships lasted longer than the 'true love' ones.
I guess I just want to tell you that shit happens. But everything gets worse if you put yourself under pressure like you do. If you put down a deadline for your love life, you are guaranteed to get in trouble.
Maybe you live in the wrong culture. I am surrounded by many muslim people and they sort of "buy" a partner; someone they saw once and then their parents start negotiating the wedding conditions. So these kids hardly know each other when they get married and try to make the best of it. Maybe that kind of arrangement works for you. These muslim girls know what is expected from them. They live by their religious predicaments.
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Tue, September 1, 2009 - 8:22 PMim about to cut this chick off completely, not even gonna be friends. enemies maybe
tired of caring about people and being left with nothing
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Re: I liked a Leo girl
Fri, October 16, 2009 - 7:33 PMu want it straight? cut the bullshit. ur not ready for love right now. u got a long way to go before ur ready for "the one". lighten up and stop taking life so seriously. yes, we leos probably come off as too carefree but myself, and all the leos i know, get shit done while still leaving room to play. there's a balance that is important to everyone regardless of sign and ur way off kilter.
think of it this way... what u hold inside will radiate outward. u get what u give.
also, u are putting far too much emphasis on someone else to create ur happiness. yes, u will be disappointed and let down every time. u make ur own happiness.
say ur on a beach. u bend down and grab a handful of sand. u try to keep it all in ur hand so u try to ball up ur fist to hold onto it. sand starts seeping between ur fingers so u squeeze even tighter thus causing more sand to fall. if u just open ur hand u will see that the sand stays put. u seem to be trying to control her and, like any true leo would, is rebelling!
for us leos mutual respect is HUGE and a controlling partner will make us run and use evasion tactics. sure, showing a little possessiveness is tolerated, even wanted, but ur being over the top. to be honest, it's kinda creepy and kinda scary. still, i wish the best for u and i hope u can come to peace with urself. i'm sure u have a lot of love to give, and i think ur intentions are good, but ur approach/execution needs some fine tuning.
